Let me tell you about the most obnoxious person I’ve ever met. He liked to argue, and he always had to be right. He could combine words so well, even clear-thinking people with perfectly sound minds would become unsure of their position. He was a troll and a bit of a bully, and he was headed down a path that could only end in loneliness. That person, as you may have already guessed, was me.
I’ve been paying close attention to the Elliot Rodger incident that happened last weekend. I’ve seen all of his videos, including the chilling final one where he discussed his “day of retribution”. As I listen to what he has to say, I can’t help but recognize a little of myself. I wasn’t as crazy as he was, but who knows what could have happened if I had kept going on the way that I was?
To clarify things a bit to certain people who might be reading this, I no longer label myself an anarchist. My anti-government ravings were not well thought out and the product of a lot of very misplaced anger. I wasn’t wrong about everything, but anything I was right about, I was right about for the wrong reasons. I don’t think totally throwing out the government is a good idea at all. People need to come together, not split apart. Peace can only be achieved by people listening to each other.
It’s so easy to go through life without considering yourself from other people’s points of view, and it seems like most people do that. They react to things without thinking, they misunderstand, they get angry, and they seek satisfaction rather than resolution. I don’t want to be like that. I’ve managed to take a look at myself from the outside a few times in my life, and about a year ago, I did it for the first time in quite a while and realized that something was seriously wrong. I had forgotten to value my relationships. I saw valuing the opinions and feelings of others as a weakness. Then Michelle reminded me that only from the outside can you get an accurate overview of what most people see when they look at you. I silenced my ego, I opened my eyes, and my world changed for the better.
It does you no good to go around hurting people and cutting yourself off from caring about the suffering you cause, because as humans, we need each other’s help to have a happy life. Societies thrive on harmony. Productive members of society are the ones who facilitate harmony through peaceful interactions. That’s what I want to do.